Tag Archives: Behaviour

Good Boss or Bad Boss?

Are you a good boss or a bad boss

Some people ask me how they can tell if a leader or a manager has high emotional intelligence or not.  My view is we all know already.  Let me explain. Do you consider yourself to be a good boss or a bad boss?  Or better still, if I asked your team if they considered you to be a good boss or a bad boss, what would they say?  Whether we are considered good or bad […]

Get the scalpel and cut it out

doctor surgeon with scalpel removing limiting beliefs

OK, I admit it – it’s a dramatic title for a blog; however it is descriptive of my current condition, because earlier this week I had a minor operation to remove a lipoma, a small fatty lump.  It necessitated a general anaesthetic, so I’ve spent a few days since taking it a bit easy.  Which led me to thinking … I wouldn’t have said the lipoma was causing me any anxiety or distress; however having had it removed I […]

All you have is now – miss it and it’s gone

Future Past & Present signpost in the sky

I was reading a blog post recently, “20 Habits of Happy People” and number ten on the list was “Live in the present”.  It reminded me of the journey I’ve been taking over the past six months or so in trying to do just that. Philosopher and neuroscientist, Sam Harris, in his talk entitled “Death and the Present Moment”, offers an interesting perspective on the present moment; he says: “It is always now.  However much you feel […]

Are you socially intelligent about social media?

Are you socially intelligent about social media?

With my executive coaching clients I often develop aspects of their Emotional Intelligence (which some call social intelligence) to help improve their communication and relationship skills: self-awareness, so that when situations arise you are aware of your own feeling and emotions; self management, which allows you to pause in your reaction, assess the situation, consider your desired outcome and choose an appropriate response; social awareness, to detect and understand the reaction that your communication or […]

Which side of the bed did you get up on?

smashing alarm clock with hammer

Has anyone ever asked you this question?  This query is normally aimed at people who are behaving particularly grouchy on the day in question.  It can also sometimes be used by people trying to explaining away their own bad day – “I got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning and everything that could go wrong has.”  Now of course, which physical side of the bed you get out of isn’t actually going to […]

What an awful day!

Sad woman looking through rainy window

Perhaps it’s a symptom of this time of year.  I’ve been hearing lots of people saying things like “It’s a grim day”, “What a grey day”, “It’s a sh%t&y day … again!”  You might think I’ve been talking to desperate people; people at the end of their luck, about to be put onto the streets, searching for their next meal.  But no, these are your everyday people – talking about the weather! They’re the kind of people that […]

Does your business run like clockwork?

Skeleton watch with cogs visible

The other day I heard someone exclaiming that “your people are your business”, “take away the people and there is no business”.  In the past I would have immediately agreed with this; however now I’d take a different view.  No I’m not discounting the claim – it simply doesn’t go far enough. It’s not just the people; it’s the relationships.  Take the analogy of a clock or a watch; one powered by clockwork as opposed to the […]

Do you feel fulfilled?

Business man feeling fulfilled

My birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks.  Looking at the latest figures from the UK’s Office of National Statistics, life expectancy is currently around 78 for a man and 82 for a woman.  Based on this I have about 9,500 days left; and as I’m almost 19,000 days old that puts me 2/3 of the way there!  Now some might say “Oh no. Only 9,500 days left?  That’s nothing!”  However, another way of looking […]

Chimps and a little monkey business

chimpanzee-almost-human

Yes I know chimps are primates, not monkeys – read on. In the past a common view was that chimpanzees are lovely and friendly little creatures that enjoy having tea parties and drinking a particular brand of tea!  It was certainly assumed they were passive vegetarian creatures.  However, over the past fifty years much has been learnt about chimps and we now know them to be intelligent, complicated, ingenious and powerful individuals.  It was Swiss […]

I don’t want to be negative, but …

Man receiving negative criticism

In this blog I want you to think about how you interact with other people; in particular how you interact with significant others at home or at work. I first want to look at the effect of negative comments and criticism.  You may have noticed you can say something negative to one person and they take it in the way it was intended, whilst saying the same thing to somebody else results in a negative […]